Moving Beyond Every Single Risk Point

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In any given conversation, there’s a series of places where most people stop.  They give up.  More accurately they give into fear.  Obviously, at each place there’s a point of anxiety where the dark voices, the monkey men, come in and start telling you why not to do it, you’re not good enough, and they’ll tell you to move away, walk away, eject, and run.

We must train ourselves to move past each “Risk Point”, and I’m calling it a “risk point” because a risk is where you take a leap to the next place, and you’re not 100% sure you’re going to land on your feet. It’s exactly a risk that you might be rejected.  It’s a risk that you might not be accepted.  It’s a risk that your compliment or your assertion might not be received.
So these are all the little risk points, and we’re vulnerable at each place.  And this is what we must train ourselves to move past. This is why we would walk down the street saying hello to lots of people. This is why we would start five or six conversations on any given day just for the sake of it.  This is why we’ll give people compliments as we see them so with practice it’ll get more comfortable.  Does that make sense?

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The Ultimate Mind Set: The Social Explorer

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When flirting with the opposite sex, we often get into a hunter and prey mindset.

Straight away, we fall into a world of lack because we’re following a faulty paradigm. And this faulty paradigm is the success/failure paradigm. I’m successful if I get a phone number. I’m successful if she smiles. I’m successful if I get laid. I’m successful if…

The problem is even if we have those successes they’re immediately followed by things we don’t like: failures.

The reality is that it takes practice being social. It takes lots of talking, connecting, and exploring in order to have any of those outcomes.

So with that success/failure paradigm we never really get there, or when we do get there we just don’t feel that good.

We feel bad about ourselves every time someone doesn’t smile; every time we don’t get a phone number; every time she has a boyfriend; every time someone rejects our wants; every time someone doesn’t give us a kiss; every time we don’t get laid.

So everything is based on success and failure, which is filled with exhausting emotional lows, and a couple of highs.
But imagine leaving that track.

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The Most Romantic Story Ever Told: The Story of How We Met

The Story of “how we met”! One of the Most important stories a couple has. A story that, when in a relationship, you will repeat countless times. The first thing her friends and family will ask is…”How did you meet”. It’s an integral part of the romance.

As the man you are the leader. It’s up to you to create magic in the moment and it’s up to you think this far ahead. Do you want your story to be we met on tinder or in drunken haze in a bar? And then the two of you inventible lie and wish you had a better one. Or do you want it to be filled with heart pounding trepidatious adventure. Let your story be that of a romantic hero filled with boldness and action. Watch this Video…I’ll teach you how.

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Men – Why You Need To Be Beautiful

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Beauty is not a word often attributed to men, and it’s not something men often aspire to.

More often, adjectives like hard worker, tough, strong, smart, sharp, sincere.  These are things men can aspire to be — rich, wealthy, a provider, a good man, etc.

We might say it about something we see in nature, when we look in a baby’s eyes, or a great work of art. We most certainly are obsessed with the beauty of women, her hair, her eyes, those lips, her legs, her ass. The way she moves and talks…”She is so Beautiful!”

But what about us?

What about us men?

Can’t we be beautiful too?

Well I say…you ought to be.

If we want an amazing life, we must become amazing. If we want truly soulful and beautiful women in our lives, then we ourselves must become beautiful. We must come to know our very essence as beautiful and emanate it outward.

When we understand attraction at its core, it literally means to pull to us. And what are we pulling to us?

It’s what we’re putting out.

So if we’re putting out harshness and toughness and anger, that’s pretty much what we’re going to get back into our lives.

How can I become one with a lovely, sincere beautiful creature if I’m not that at my very core, also!?

This doesn’t mean dress up in high heels, smatter lipstick, and act overly effeminate. :  )

It means nurture, cultivate, and honor yourself as a beautiful light in the world and emanate it outward.

Today, walk around and be beautiful from the inside out.

Imagine your very essence; your very core is so beautiful, so bright, that when people look at it they’re in awe. When they see you and look into your eyes, they see true beauty.

Today, give yourself affirmations that revolve around you being beautiful. Your thoughts are beautiful, your actions are beautiful, and your touch is beautiful. Your essence is beautiful.
Your words, however they come out of your mouth, they’re beautiful. The way you affect other people is beautiful.

People look at you in awe; all they can express is, “That man is beautiful.”

Today, expect beauty to come into your life in every form. The people you meet, every little experience you have, beauty is coming to you.

Expect in the near future that a woman is going to come into your life and she will be beautiful, not just on the outside, but from the inside out.

Tell the women you meet today what’s beautiful about them.

Remind yourself how purely beautiful you are, and only the highest level of beauty can come to you. Only the highest level of beauty will match you.

To True Beauty,

-John

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The Art of Settling In

Most men go into hunting mode when they want to meet a women.They walk around the bar, the streets, the cafes, wherever they are with a feeling of eminent lack. They are Seeking and Searching. They are in essence empty and looking for something to fill the void.

We have all been there. We seek to find companionship to end the hunger and loneliness.
But something happens in your search; You slip into a world of lack. You emit an energy of lack and sometimes it gets even worse you fall prey to desperation.
Do you know the world worst Cologne?
“Desperation” ; )
It literally does the opposite it repels the very women you are wanting to connect with.
As you walk around trying to get something you miss all the opportunities to enjoy the people around you and the places you are.
In This Video I teach you The Art of Settling In. It’s an important lesson on your path to become a powerful connector.

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There Is No “One Day” (Remove the Obstacle)

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There is no “One Day”.

There is only what is happening right now and what you want and what’s in the way.

What’s in the way, usually is some barrier you put up in your mind. For example, let’s say right now you don’t have the best living situation, you don’t have like a big fat pad on a hill in the mountains or your own place in the city.

Let’s say you’re in that situation and now you’re on a date and you don’t have anywhere to bring the girl. So you put it in your mind – well there’s no where I can bring girls, I can’t really date them, I can’t take them back to my parents or my place is a dump or whatever and it stops you from even saying hello. Or stops up from going further as far on the date as you should, as you could.

You put these barriers in your mind… so remove them.

Don’t let their be one day. That’s our biggest stopping point, the One Day Disease.

It goes something like this – one day I’ll have my own apartment then Ill have everything I want, then I’ll bring girls home, then I’ll do that. It’s like, look — dam it I didn’t clean my place so I’m not going to bring her home or I didn’t do this, I didn’t do that so I’m not going to talk to her because I didn’t go to the gym this week. When I get — you know I’m not going to
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Never Assume: Assumptions Stop You From Connecting With Amazing Women

Do You always assume your way out of connecting with great women?

I see it all the time. A guy starts a conversation with a women and then spends the entire conversation discovering all the reasons why it won’t work with her.

Basically, its an avoidance tactic so he can avoid the pain of rejection. In this video, I teach how to avoid this trap.  Never Assume instead explore and discover. Be curious about who she is and how you can make it work.  Also, I share some examples.  You might see yourself in some of them.

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He Stood In A Dusty Room (Financial Insecurity)

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“He stood in a dusty room… he looked around and saw no doors”

So you’re in a spot in your life where you don’t feel like you have it all together.

Maybe it’s in your mind, or maybe it’s very real.

Maybe you’re going through a bankruptcy. Maybe you still haven’t found your career. Maybe the career you’ve tried so hard to get into hasn’t brought you the kind of money you wanted, and you feel like you’re not worthy of a good, wholehearted, beautiful woman in your life, or beautiful women.

Perhaps these thoughts make you feel you’re not as attractive as you would be if you had that area taken care of. Maybe you believe you need to have great wealth in order to attract women.

That’s completely not true.

I can tell you, I’ve worked with all kinds of guys with great wealth, and it didn’t make them more attractive to the average, cool girl who has her own life, much to the dismay of my wealthy client.

And I can also tell you I have lived an interesting life. I was a [click to continue…]

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How To Use A Prop To Break The Ice

You find yourself standing next to an attractive women in the bookstore, super market, coffee shop, etc… you want to talk but you can’t think of anything to say.

The easiest thing to do is to pick up something nearby and use it to break the ice.

You can make a funny comment, ask for a sincere opinion…anything at all.

The secret is to not think about it all. Just pick something up and let it fly.

There is never any need to run out of conversation when you learn to use props.

In this video I show you how.

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Be With The C
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When you’re with a woman, focus on taking it one step at a time.

Think about the step you’re in, and keep your focus on that one moment only.

Imagine you’re a guitar player, or a piano player, or a saxophone player, or any kind of musician or singer.
Let’s just say you’re learning how to play the guitar, and you’re learning rock and roll, and you’re learning the basic progression, 1, 4, 5, which translates to C, F, G, and then back to C.

Those are the the chords, and let’s just say you can put in the song, “Let it be,” in there. Its basic chord progression is C, F, G, and back to C. I don’t know if that’s exactly true, but I’m pretty sure it is.
As you learn the songs and you practice enough times, it becomes a part of you.

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When you’re playing the C chord, you can’t play the F chord too.

You can only play the C. You must BE with the C.

Then, as you practice and you’re playing, your hand will naturally glide in the exact time it needs to, and then you’ll BE with the F.
Then it will slide in the exact time it needs to, to be with the G, and then you’ll BE with the G. Then you’ll go back to being with the C.
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