The Art of Settling In

Most men go into hunting mode when they want to meet a women.They walk around the bar, the streets, the cafes, wherever they are with a feeling of eminent lack. They are Seeking and Searching. They are in essence empty and looking for something to fill the void.

We have all been there. We seek to find companionship to end the hunger and loneliness.
But something happens in your search; You slip into a world of lack. You emit an energy of lack and sometimes it gets even worse you fall prey to desperation.
Do you know the world worst Cologne?
“Desperation” ; )
It literally does the opposite it repels the very women you are wanting to connect with.
As you walk around trying to get something you miss all the opportunities to enjoy the people around you and the places you are.
In This Video I teach you The Art of Settling In. It’s an important lesson on your path to become a powerful connector.


There Is No “One Day” (Remove the Obstacle)


There is no “One Day”.

There is only what is happening right now and what you want and what’s in the way.

What’s in the way, usually is some barrier you put up in your mind. For example, let’s say right now you don’t have the best living situation, you don’t have like a big fat pad on a hill in the mountains or your own place in the city.

Let’s say you’re in that situation and now you’re on a date and you don’t have anywhere to bring the girl. So you put it in your mind – well there’s no where I can bring girls, I can’t really date them, I can’t take them back to my parents or my place is a dump or whatever and it stops you from even saying hello. Or stops up from going further as far on the date as you should, as you could.

You put these barriers in your mind… so remove them.

Don’t let their be one day. That’s our biggest stopping point, the One Day Disease.

It goes something like this – one day I’ll have my own apartment then Ill have everything I want, then I’ll bring girls home, then I’ll do that. It’s like, look — dam it I didn’t clean my place so I’m not going to bring her home or I didn’t do this, I didn’t do that so I’m not going to talk to her because I didn’t go to the gym this week. When I get — you know I’m not going to
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Never Assume: Assumptions Stop You From Connecting With Amazing Women

Do You always assume your way out of connecting with great women?

I see it all the time. A guy starts a conversation with a women and then spends the entire conversation discovering all the reasons why it won’t work with her.

Basically, its an avoidance tactic so he can avoid the pain of rejection. In this video, I teach how to avoid this trap.  Never Assume instead explore and discover. Be curious about who she is and how you can make it work.  Also, I share some examples.  You might see yourself in some of them.


He Stood In A Dusty Room (Financial Insecurity)


“He stood in a dusty room… he looked around and saw no doors”

So you’re in a spot in your life where you don’t feel like you have it all together.

Maybe it’s in your mind, or maybe it’s very real.

Maybe you’re going through a bankruptcy. Maybe you still haven’t found your career. Maybe the career you’ve tried so hard to get into hasn’t brought you the kind of money you wanted, and you feel like you’re not worthy of a good, wholehearted, beautiful woman in your life, or beautiful women.

Perhaps these thoughts make you feel you’re not as attractive as you would be if you had that area taken care of. Maybe you believe you need to have great wealth in order to attract women.

That’s completely not true.

I can tell you, I’ve worked with all kinds of guys with great wealth, and it didn’t make them more attractive to the average, cool girl who has her own life, much to the dismay of my wealthy client.

And I can also tell you I have lived an interesting life. I was a [click to continue…]


How To Use A Prop To Break The Ice

You find yourself standing next to an attractive women in the bookstore, super market, coffee shop, etc… you want to talk but you can’t think of anything to say.

The easiest thing to do is to pick up something nearby and use it to break the ice.

You can make a funny comment, ask for a sincere opinion…anything at all.

The secret is to not think about it all. Just pick something up and let it fly.

There is never any need to run out of conversation when you learn to use props.

In this video I show you how.


Be With The C
 (Stillness and Focus)

When you’re with a woman, focus on taking it one step at a time.

Think about the step you’re in, and keep your focus on that one moment only.

Imagine you’re a guitar player, or a piano player, or a saxophone player, or any kind of musician or singer.
Let’s just say you’re learning how to play the guitar, and you’re learning rock and roll, and you’re learning the basic progression, 1, 4, 5, which translates to C, F, G, and then back to C.

Those are the the chords, and let’s just say you can put in the song, “Let it be,” in there. Its basic chord progression is C, F, G, and back to C. I don’t know if that’s exactly true, but I’m pretty sure it is.
As you learn the songs and you practice enough times, it becomes a part of you.


When you’re playing the C chord, you can’t play the F chord too.

You can only play the C. You must BE with the C.

Then, as you practice and you’re playing, your hand will naturally glide in the exact time it needs to, and then you’ll BE with the F.
Then it will slide in the exact time it needs to, to be with the G, and then you’ll BE with the G. Then you’ll go back to being with the C.
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How To Not Creep Her Out (a Painfully Familiar Tale)

In this video I tell a real life Story about one of my friends who is typically good with women but on this day fell into the reality of the average frustrated man: Hesitating, missing the moment, seeking approval, looming around her, following her, as he crossed into the dreaded creepy zone! I”ll share this familiar tale but I won’t leave you hanging. I will teach you how to recover the next time you find yourself going down this path.


Take yourself Outside the Box and Peak Back Inside (Practicing Detachment)


Have a look around.

Sit at a cafe on a good street, and do some people watching.

Drive down a busy road where lots of people will be and doing things that people do; shopping, talking, chatting, and maybe flirting.

Have a look at everyone as they have their conversations, as they kiss, as they get in and out of their car and run from one place to the next.

Watch as they get into it, as they get contentious.  Watch as they’re bored, as they’re daydreaming, as they’re super über–focused, as they’re attached to an outcome.

Watch a man and a woman falling in love, a man and a woman falling apart.  It’s all happening around us all the time.
You’re a part of it too, though today, you’re the observer of them.  Be outside of it and just watch it, no judgment, just to see what it is.  Try to understand it from a different perspective.

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Zen and The Art of Meeting and Connecting With Women

Imagine a way of life where you are continually connecting with amazing women and at the same time transcending all of your limits. Imagine stepping into a new reality where you find Joy and fun and power in expressing yourself. Imagine becoming magnetic and lighting women up the moment you arrive. That is what happens when you take on “The Social Practice” and view your social exchanges and flirting as a Zen like practice. In This Video I will reveal the biggest secret to doing just that.


Your Biggest Challenge Isn’t What You Think


Your biggest challenge is not that you don’t have a girlfriend.

Your biggest challenge is not that sometimes you have a tough time, or you hesitate when you want to say hi to a beautiful woman at work. And it’s not that you don’t always take the risk.

Your biggest challenge is not that you don’t have the perfect job right now, or the perfect body, or the perfect whatever.

Your biggest challenge is making a conscious choice to feel good about yourself. There’s literally nothing more important in your life than feeling grateful, appreciative, and content with yourself.

Your biggest challenge is making a conscious choice to feel good about yourself. There’s literally nothing more important in your life than feeling grateful, appreciative, and content with yourself.

That doesn’t mean we take drugs to get there.

That doesn’t mean that we just sit there like a vegetable.

That doesn’t mean that we don’t have dreams and… [click to continue…]

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