Your biggest challenge is not that you don’t have a girlfriend.
Your biggest challenge is not that sometimes you have a tough time, or you hesitate when you want to say hi to a beautiful woman at work. And it’s not that you don’t always take the risk.
Your biggest challenge is not that you don’t have the perfect job right now, or the perfect body, or the perfect whatever.
Your biggest challenge is making a conscious choice to feel good about yourself. There’s literally nothing more important in your life than feeling grateful, appreciative, and content with yourself.
Your biggest challenge is making a conscious choice to feel good about yourself. There’s literally nothing more important in your life than feeling grateful, appreciative, and content with yourself.
That doesn’t mean we take drugs to get there.
That doesn’t mean that we just sit there like a vegetable.
That doesn’t mean that we don’t have dreams and…desires, and follow them, and it doesn’t mean we’re not driven like hell.
It means that we’re content, focused, and appreciative of who we are, and not focused on who we aren’t.
This is your biggest challenge.
You stop focusing on what you don’t have and what you don’t like, and you start focusing on what you do have and what you do like.
You have your health; you have many years ahead of you. You have great ideas. You have an education. You have a good value system. You’re constantly growing and evolving and discovering new secrets of the universe. You’re constantly finding out who you are, and you have all the wealth before you.
But if you have to focus on what you don’t have, focus on the things that you’re glad you don’t have.
Maybe you’re glad you don’t have three kids, a mortgage, and suffering in debt. Maybe you’re glad you don’t have HIV. Maybe you’re glad you don’t have a relationship that’s toxic.
Be glad for what you don’t have and be grateful for what you do have. Work from that place, it can work no other way.
Imagine you’re chasing. You’re trying to get a girlfriend all day because you think your salvation lies in the future.
That’s your disease.
The whole time you spend searching, you feel bad about yourself. Even if somehow you collide with another human being and you guys get involved, the joy you feel is brief and short–lived, because you’ve trained yourself to be discontent every day of your life. This other person is not going to all-of-a-sudden shock you into peace, happiness, gratitude, and appreciation.
If you want to get to that place, you have to get there on your own.
You have to do the work for yourself, and you have to get into a state of appreciation for everything you already have, and for everything in the world around you.
I’ll see you around,
John
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