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Will Joining a Private NYC Club Improve Your Dating Life? (The Truth About Soho House, Zero Bond & NYC’s Elite Social Scene)
🏛️ The Allure of the Private Club Lifestyle In NYC, more men are joining exclusive private clubs like Soho House, Zero Bond, and newer names like Casa Cipriani or ZZ’s Club. These venues promise a high-status lifestyle — and for many guys, the hope is that they’ll also unlock a new level of dating […]
How to Flirt with a Woman on the NYC Subway (Without Being Weird)
Flirting on the subway? Most guys are either too afraid to try—or do it so awkwardly they ruin the moment. But here’s the truth: The NYC subway is full of beautiful, interesting women—and every now and then, the vibe is just right. If you can learn to flirt naturally and respectfully in that environment, you’ll […]
How to Approach a Woman on the Street in NYC (Without Looking Like a Creep)
Approaching a woman on the street in New York City is either one of the most exciting things you can do—or the most terrifying. Most guys never try. They’re afraid of looking weird, getting rejected, or coming off as a creep. But when done with presence, awareness, and leadership—it’s powerful. I’ve been coaching men for […]
How to Meet a Woman in a NYC Bookstore (Without Coming Off as Creepy)
How to Meet a Woman in a NYC Bookstore (Without Coming Off as Creepy) There’s something timeless about meeting a woman in a bookstore. It’s quiet, intentional, and full of opportunity—if you know how to navigate the moment. But this isn’t a bar. You don’t “cold approach.” You engage with presence, subtlety, and awareness. […]
How to Meet a Woman at Whole Foods in NYC (Without Being Awkward)
How to Meet a Woman at Whole Foods in NYC (Without Being Awkward) Let’s be honest—Whole Foods is basically a dating app with organic produce. If you live in NYC, you already know: Women shop there solo, take their time, and browse intentionally. The vibe is open, curious, and calm. Which makes it one of […]
How to Meet a Woman at a Coffee Shop in NYC (Without Interrupting Her Flow)
Coffee shops are one of the best places in New York City to meet women naturally. Why? Because they’re filled with energy, movement, and solo people. But you only get one chance to do it right—especially in NYC where time is everything. So how do you start a conversation without looking creepy… or getting iced […]
How to Meet a Woman on a NYC Park Bench (Without Being Creepy)
How to Meet a Woman on a NYC Park Bench (Without Being Creepy) New York City is full of opportunity—especially when it comes to meeting women. But if you’re like most guys, you’ve probably walked past a woman sitting alone on a park bench, thought about saying something… and then completely froze. The moment […]
What a Dating Coach Actually Does (And Why It Works for So Many Men in NYC)
What a Dating Coach Actually Does (And Why It Works for So Many Men in NYC) The phrase “dating coach” still gets a raised eyebrow. People imagine pickup lines, scripted routines, or some guy yelling “just be confident!” But here’s the truth: a real dating coach does none of that. In fact, if you […]
What Real Infield Dating Coaching Looks Like (Without the Cringe Pickup Lines)
What Real Infield Dating Coaching Looks Like (Without the Cringe Pickup Lines) If you’ve ever Googled “infield coaching,” you’ve probably seen a sea of videos showing guys chasing women with canned lines, hidden cameras, and robotic routines. Let me be clear—that’s not what real infield coaching is about. The Truth About Infield Coaching […]
Struggling with Dating Apps? Here’s What to Do Instead (That Actually Works)
Struggling with Dating Apps? You’re Not Alone. If you’re tired of swiping for hours and still getting ghosted, unmatched, or ignored—you’re not the only one. Most guys are silently frustrated with dating apps… and they don’t know what else to do. You tweak your bio, change your pics, even try witty openers—but the results […]
Daygame in NYC: How to Meet Women During the Day (Without Being Weird)
Daygame in NYC: How to Meet Women During the Day (Without Being Weird) Is it possible to meet women during the day in New York City—without coming off as awkward or creepy? Yes. It’s not only possible—it can be one of the most natural, fun, and powerful ways to build real-world dating confidence. As […]
What It’s Really Like Being a Dating Coach in NYC
Being a dating coach in New York City is not what most people think. It’s not all cocktails, model girlfriends, or cheesy pickup lines. It’s real work. And it’s deeply personal. For over 15 years, I’ve walked the streets of SoHo, the West Village, and Midtown with my clients—men who want more out of life […]
How to Find a Dating Coach in NYC (And Know You’ve Chosen the Right One)
Finding a dating coach in New York City can feel overwhelming. There are dozens of coaches, therapists, YouTubers, and “gurus” all claiming to offer transformation. But how do you know who’s legit? How do you choose someone who doesn’t just give advice—but gives results? I’ve been coaching men in NYC and around the world for […]
How to Make Her Like You: A Comprehensive Guide
Are you looking to impress that special someone and make her like you? Building a connection with someone you’re interested in can be both exciting and challenging. In this guide, we’ll walk you through a step-by-step approach to help you win her heart. From making a strong first impression to expressing your feelings, here’s how […]
How to Flirt
Flirting, at its core, is all about playfully expressing romantic interest in someone. It can be intimidating to put yourself out there and try to flirt, but don’t fret-feeling nervous around someone you genuinely like is completely normal. The good new is, ther are ways to boos your confidence and become a pro at flirting. […]
How to successfully detach yourself from the outcome
As you may well be aware, the sun is shining, the bees are buzzing and women’s eyes are beaming with desire. Spring is here! So much energy is in the air you may feel overwhelmed from it. Let me give you a secret that helps you begin and makes flirting fun. I’m talking about detachment; […]
The Secret To A Life Filled With Beautiful Women with Sasha Daygame
I could have called this video so many things. It’s a great interview with a close friend who inspires me every time we meet. It’s really a call to self-actualization; a call to constantly step outside of your comfort zone as a way to live an undeniable awesome life! The secrets that are revealed in […]
Good Looking Guy Game
So many guys fall into this category. They just rely on their charming smile or great head of hair to get them through a conversation with a beautiful woman. When they start the conversation they hope she will take over. Once in a while he will run into an assertive woman and she will […]
Dating In A Political World
In the most toxic political climate of our time, can you still go on a date and just have fun?
The Core of The Conversation
Many people get lost in a conversation with an attractive stranger. Here’s a guide to help you a long the way…
What Are New York City Women Thinking?
Hi Guys, Ever wonder whats going on inside the women you see everyday’s mind? What are thinking? What are they feeling? What do they want? So many beautiful and interesting women in NYC and yet so many disconnected people. Everyone reading this doesn’t have to be one of them. Looking forward, John PS. Catch me […]
Positive Masculinity
Embrace all that you are. Love all that you are. Never make yourself less so someone else can be more. The world will be better for it. Have you felt the confusion of being a man in society lately? Watch this video:
Empires Built To Lay at Her Feet and Yet He Still Couldn’t Say Hi 😢
Everything a man does is with love in his mind. He daydreams about “her” the first day his hormones kick in. He dreams he will do great things and lay it at her feet.
Your Analytical Job Is Killing Your Dating Life and The Only Cure
“Staring at computer screen for several hours a day with little real human contact; Analyzing people and data all day; leave work feel disconnected from the environment; desire women…but can only analyze all the the reasons why not to say hi; get in conversation and feel disconnected from other people.” These are just some of […]
How Do You Make Someone Feel Loved
Make someone feel big…small…special…inconsequential…LOVED! It all comes down to this…
How To Recreate Your Identity (Live From Kiev)
Hey guys, I hope you are enjoying your summer. I’ve been traveling and coaching around Europe. Right now I am back in NYC. Forgive me for not sharing more. It’s something I will be a lot better at! I often get into my flow or get so busy coaching and or working on my book […]
How To Be Playful
Being playful is fun. Learn why it’s so important in connecting with new people. In this video I explain why and how too… Fill out my evaluation form now: https://theawakenedlifestyle.com/dating-coaching-for-men/
Become Your Own Coach
The trials and tribulations we face when we undertake a new endeavor are great! The social practice is, in my opinion, the most empowering journey a man can take. The journey is also the one he fears the most. To achieve his goals of being a great connecter, he has to let go of every […]
Live Street Meditation and Visualization (10 Minute Transformation)
Hi Guys, This video is so powerful and proves that we can simply blink and find ourselves in a new state of being. Here is a client who is ridden with angst at the very thought of talking to women. His thought process completely negative and stuck in what i would call a hell state. […]
SHE is The Mirror That Reflects Your Deepest Fear Back To YOU
Hey Guys, In my personal journey to manhood and self discovery I have found women to be my greatest teacher. In my relationship to them wether it be a fleeting moment on a street corner or in a long term relationship they have always reflected back to me my deepest insecurities. It is often not […]
The Awakened Lifestyle: NYC Dating Coach John Keegan Marries Opportunity & Preparation to Help Singles Organically Attract Love
MEN’S DATING HOME > TRENDING > ARTICLE The Awakened Lifestyle: NYC Dating Coach John Keegan Marries Opportunity & Preparation to Help Singles Organically Attract Love The Short Version: John Keegan has mastered the art of teaching singles how to naturally attract the opposite sex. As a result, he’s become one of New York City’s most sought-after […]
Rare video of John Keegan Infield and Coaching-Day Game
In this video I work with a shy guy who’s never approached women before and show him the way. First I help him see it in a new way and then the journey begins… PS. … Make sure to reserver your spot on my highly limited live workshops for 2017. Find all details here: […]
Why Nice Guys Are The Real Creeps
Hi Guys, Are you so busy trying to be the “nice guy” or the “good guy” that you are actually becoming A CREEP!? In the failed and fatal attempt to do and behave in a way that you think is “right” you completely disconnect from your own instincts and desires. As nature would have it […]
No Masturbation|John Keegan Motivational Video|
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hyghX5fHc9w John Motivational video on why you should quit masturbation and why you must connect more with women. Make sure to reserve your spot on my highly limited live workshops for 2017. Find all details here: https://theawakenedlifestyle.com/dati… I’m giving away the “Path to Authenticity” Speech I gave last year (in front of a paying audience) […]
The Confidence Illusion
Hi Guys, Maybe you are making this mistake too? I spent so many of years of my life chasing an illusion. I Kept waiting for the day for this magical thing everyone talks about to appear. Sometime i would get glimpses but then it would disappear. It was several years into my seduction […]
Raison D’Être – The Reason For Being
Life can be confusing, distracting, and leave you feeling like you are in a constant state of struggle. Do you experience self-doubt? Do you often berate yourself? Are you in your head all day? Do you talk yourself out of all the things you really want to do? Do you often feel like your best […]
How To Combat The Spread Of Anti-Social Disease
Hey Guys, somethings happening within us and around us. Somebody has to talk about it. So I will! There are people out there that believe that being social with strangers is bad. The only we should meet new people is through swiping (nightmare scream). You can see their faces, the negativity oozing from there pores, […]
How to Connect with Strangers – John Keegan in Havanna, Cuba
One of my greatest pleasures is taking me and my ability to meet and connect with people on the road. I love to just land in a strange city and make my way. Sometimes I go to places where no one speaks English. I often hear men tell me they have gone to a country […]
A Secret Way To See
Hi Guys, a good life is a life lived by your interest and passions. A Good life starts and ends with your relationship with yourself. The better that relationship (your prime relationship) the greater the life experiences you will have. In order to have great friends and date amazing women that add value to our […]
How To Be An Engaging Man
Ever feel like you don’t know how to make a conversation interesting? I hear a lot of guys say they “hate small talk”. They feel like by making small talk they are being fake. Many men are just to black and white or to literal. When women ask them questions they give one word […]
Your Prime Relationship Is With YOU!
Hi Guys, throughout your life you will know many people. Both lovers and friends will change over time but you will always have you! In this video I talk about the importance of your relationship with you. Looking forward, John PS Become the man you always wanted to be now! check out my courses here:https://theawakenedlifestyle.com/dating-coaching-for-men/
The Moment Before The Most Important Moment Of Your Life
Hi Guys, I have been fortunate enough to have had many great experiences in my life! But the reality is before every experience worth having is fear and risk. In this video I tell you how to deal with the moment before the moment. Looking forward, John Ps. Become you now! Check out my courses […]
Two Simple Formulas That Will Transform Your Dating Life
One of the biggest challenges when meeting new people is getting out of own way. Most of us guys get stuck in our head and over analyze the reasons why not to talk to the girl we are interested. For some of us its absolutely debilitating! We know that we have it in us to […]
The Power of Music In Seduction
HI Guys, What kind of music do you like? What’s a song you are into right now? Musicians are often know to have women swoon over them. By Why? Men always play music when they bring a girl back to their place. But Why? Music cuts through the mind and moves us past logic. It […]
The Worlds Most Misunderstood Men (Mic.com)
Hi Guys, I am featured in this article on mic.com. Its an interesting article that sheds light on a lot of the low frequency guys who are part of the “pick up world”. The article ends with me as an alternative. I never was a part of that world and I never want to be. […]
Learn To Speak In Her Langauge
Most guys speak and think logically. They tell boring factual stories. When he doesn’t express how feels about something he completely disconnects with the women he is trying to connect with. In this video I teach you how to communicate with your feelings. When you do that you will be able to really engage in […]
Game Isn’t Real!
A few years ago I worked with a client who was in his late 30’s. He had a successful business and was a really really smart guy. He’d come out of a bad relationship a few years before and went on a journey to better himself and meet the women he really wanted to date. […]
What A Flakey World!
Have you ever got the courage up to talk to someone you were really attracted to? You took the risk and did it everything right. The conversation was flawless. She seemed so into you.! You took her number and set up a date. You began to imagine all the great things you would do together. […]
The Ultimate Prize
The journey a man takes, no matter which road he follows, will begin and end in search of this….
The Time I Accidently Creep Out Katy Perry
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zLAfLir-ZMc Hi Guys, I wanted to share a funny story about the time I unknowingly “met” Katy Perry in the Whole Foods in LA. Yes, That Katy Perry! I share the story because it is a familiar story for any guy who goes out and takes the risk to connect with attractive women in everyday […]
She Better Be Even More Awesome Than You
Hi Guys, I hope your summer has been epic. I can honestly say mine was : ) We are moving into fall soon and the energy will be of Action. A lot of guys write to me about how to get an amazing girlfriend. The answer is simple but it also takes work; Not only […]
The Interpreter (The Man Inside Your Head)
Hi Guys, I hope you enjoying your summer! I’m on the Croatian coast right now; Adventuring, hanging with good friends, and working on the creative side of my business. I’ll be back in NYC Soon… The 5 Day Transformation Course is September 7-11th. I will share more about that in the coming days… Today, […]
How To Connect Deeply With A Women IN Under 3 Seconds
Hi Guys, A common thing I see with most men and even many guys who claim to be good with women, is they see seduction as a numbers game. The truth is its not a numbers game… It will harm your efforts to see it that way… Its actually an Art and not a game […]
The Highest Frequency
Hi guys, the last two days Ive shared some content about “being” and the power that focus has on the life that we create. In order to create the ultimate life… The life you know you can live… The Man you know you can be… To attract the women you really desire and deserve into […]
All That I AM Not
Hi Guys, Yesterday I shared with you “The truth of I am”. I hope it resonated with you on a core level. Today, I want to share with you what all our minds tend to do, especially when it comes to talking to beautiful women. Instead of just being; instead of choosing to focus our […]
The Truth Of “I AM”
Hi guys, greetings from Barcelona, Spain! I just wrapped an Epic 5 Day Course Transformation course. We spent our days meditating, visualizing, flirting, playing, loving ourselves and connecting with beautiful women. Theres something extra magical about meeting the girl of your dreams while your lost in the winding medieval walls. Over the next couple days […]
Instincts Vs Agenda
We have natural instincts to connect with other people. We have a natural instinct to express ourselves. We have a natural instinct to make our points of view heard and understood by others. In fact, if our points of view aren’t heard and understood, and we’re in a relationship, we feel really bad about ourselves […]
The Reason And The Cure For Your Approach Anxiety
Approach Anxiety can be debilitating! The fear rises up in your body and stops you from talking to beautiful women. The women you desire allude and you go into an endless cycle of self berating. When you deny your instincts and don’t follow them you begin living a lie. You become a small version of […]
“The Hero’s Journey” – Barcelona July 2016 – Join Me…
Join me for a true adventure in every way! Let go of your limiting beliefs and step into the most powerful version of you. Become a master of connecting with women in every situation and become the leader of your life. Live “the hero’s journey”. Join me in Barcelona, Spain July 6th – 10th! Fill […]
How To Get Social After A Long Day of Analytical Work
After a long day of analytical work, how do you get into the Social Flow! Join the tribe at www.theawakenedlifestyle.com It’s Free : )
The Power Of 5
Over my many years of coaching and teaching the “The Social Practice” I’ve learned the most effective way to create a social man is to challenge him to take 5 socially specific risk a day. This is the only way to create lasting change and making being social, flirting and connecting with women a fun […]
The Way To The Flow
There is a life force the flows like an eternal river of cool. How do you find your way to it and become with the flow…
The Porn Cleanse
The Destruction of Porn effacts so many mens lives. It has prompted me to talk about it once again. In this video I get into it. Watching it over and over changes your brain chemistry. Your become an addict. It stops you from experiencing real intimacy with a women. Its stop mens from talking to […]
Conversation Tips: How to Answer The Big 3…
Hi Guys, What do I do after I say hello? How do I have conversation that really engages her? How do I talk about myself? How can I get her to invest energy and emotion into the conversation. How can I flirt with her? How do I make her want more? How can I do have […]
Transcending Your Childhood (Anger)
In This Video I talk about shedding our childhood. Life is a constant letting go. A shedding. We have to make peace with our child and let go of any negative beliefs, traits, or behaviors that become normal to us. Its the only way to become our best self. In this video I share a […]
Learning To Ride The Waves: Ebbs and Flow
Hi Guys, Do you ever get seriously frustrated with women!? Do you find you try and try and somehow it doesn’t work out. Somehow you never have what you want. Maybe you had 10 girls phone numbers and still no date. Maybe you went on dates and no second date. Maybe you were falling in […]
An Inspired Man Is An Attractive Man
Hi Guys, I know what its like to get stuck in a rut. When you are in one it feels like you will never get out or like you have always been there. I also know the extraordinary feeling of being inspired and taking action from there. When you are inspired, you are elevated. You […]
Video: Memory Motel
Hi Guys, we all have a vision of greatest self! But how many of us actually make a plan to create our best life? Few. For most of us life is just happening to us. We become victim to circumstance and events. Our daily experiences become dulled. We don’t actually live out the life […]
2 Things You Can Do After You Break The Ice
Many of us get stumped after we start a converstaion. We have no idea where to go next. Its a common problem for men. Have you ever just rambled on pointlessly? Has your mind drawn a complete blank? The good news is, there is a way to move the convesation into one that matters; A […]
The Key To Living An Amazing Lifestyle
Hi Guys, Its the begining of the year and I know a lot of us are stumbling trying to make new things happen. I want to give your some inspiration today and share something I learned thats making a huge difference in my life. I want to share the true Key to living an amazing […]
Men Using Status To “Get” Women
Whenever we label ourselves or others it creates an immediete disconnect. It removes the possibilty of a true connection and the deep intimacy we crave. As men we are often taught, we are what we do. We are what we have. We are what we have acheived. So many men try to use status or […]
How To Have An Amazing Girlfriend By Years End
In This Video I give you the simple secret to becoming a master of conversation and finding an amazing women to make your girlfriend.
The Power Of Now and Dating (The Podcast)
When I first began my personal journey to transcend my limiting beliefs, lacking circumstance, and dismal dating life I discovered The Power of Now. From the second I laid eyes on it I knew it was for me. Listen To This Amazing Podcast http://castig.org/john-keegan-dating-coach-power-of-now-dating-in-new-york-city/ I knew that I was trapped in an incessant stream of thinking […]
Vibe Killer: Never Ask A Women This Question!
This one question is a vibe killer. Whenever a man ask it, it inevitable turns the women off and basically brings the conversation to a screeching halt. It reveals his one track mind and his lack of real desire to get know her as a person. Instead it tells her he just wants an outcome. […]
How To Deal With Low Investment From Women
In this video I address low investment from women. One word answers, long delays in getting back, making you chase in order to get a response. Often this low investment leads us to start reaching for witty text messages to try to engage her and ultimately to sheer frustration. We lack of understanding as […]
Attracting The Right People Into Your Life – Low Energy Vibrating People
Attraction mean to pull. We pull people that our like ourselves into our life experience. As a man its your role in nature and still in society to make the approach and take all the risk in getting to know her. But that doesn’t mean that just because you said “hi” to her that […]
The Most Powerful Statement In The World!
The I am Statement is the most powerful statement in the world! Whatever say after that is an act of self creation. In this video I share with you how to create the most in tune aligned version of yourself. When you do that you will attract the most beautiful women into your life. PS. […]
The One Who Got Away and The Peaceful Mind
“If I only knew then what I know now!” “What if I did things differently”. “What If I didn’t say that”. “What if I just tried one more time”. The one who got away and the regret that follows. It’s important to cultivate a practice of seizing opportunity. It will make you a more present […]
Mindset Shift: From Anxiety to Excitement
When you see a women you desire to have in your life a sudden surge of energy courses through your viens. Your heart races and your pupils dialte as to set you in motion to do what must be done. Your instinct is strong and it tells you make a connection with that women. But […]
Get A Girlfriend Series: Warning: It only takes One
Often in our quest to get a girlfriend that will bring real joy and happiness into our lives, we often fall short. Most of us meet a girl somewhere somehow. She likes us and we have some fun times and we jump in without really properly qualifying her. In short, we have our blinders […]
How To Find An Amazing Girlfriend -She Needs To get This One Thing
In This Video I talk about the importance of qualifying to find an amazing girlfriend. When you bring a women into your life its important to make sure she has the qualities that will make for an amazing girlfriend. Its important that she understand your humor in a relationship. If she doesn’t you will […]
How To Know If A Girl Likes You
Figuring out how to know if a girl likes you can be confusing. In this video I give some good tips on how to know if a girl likes you and when its probably gonna just be an endless chase. From the first meeting she will be giving subtle clues to let you know you […]
How to Talk to Women: The Basics
Want to learn even more about talking to, meeting, and attracting women? Click here to sign up for my FREE Instant Attraction Video Course. These videos will guide you into becoming your most attractive self and meeting women everywhere. For many men, the greatest dating challenge is how to talk to women in the […]
How To Develop Your Own Social Practice
World renowned dating coach John Keegan shares his amazing journey towards self-actualization through meeting and connecting with women genuinely and authentically. Here, he talks about his mindset and attitude towards the importance of being authentic in communicating with and attracting women and how that has deeply transformed his life. John’s take on what many in […]
Sex Tips: Your Brain On Porn
Watch this video to learn what porn does to your social, dating, and sex life. If You want to have a healthy social, dating, and sex life check out my programs:https://theawakenedlifestyle.com/dating-coaching-for-men/
Attraction Tips: Your Haunted Mind (It’s Dark In There)
Inside most of our minds lives a world we would rather not talk about. If we are to self actualize and become the most attractive version of ourselves, we must go there. We must examine our past and see how it haunts our everyday. We must exorcise the demons inside our mind. When we do […]
Attraction Tips: How To Have The Perfect Body
In our quest for perfection. We often lose sight of the reason we want perfection. In this video, I give you the secret to having the perfect body no matter who you are. Check my Courses here: https://theawakenedlifestyle.com/dating-coaching-for-men/
Dating Tips: The Easy Way To Open Any one
See It and Say It. This Technique is so simple yet so powerful! It’s the key to striking up a conversation with any women at anytime. It also feeds in to all of my teachings about being super present and cultivating your powers of observations. Once you get this technique down you will be to […]
Law of Attraction and Meeting Women
What a lot of men fail to realize, in there quest to meet the ultimate women, is that it’s not all about doing. They’ll run around all day, every day, chasing and exhausting themselves. While some other guy will focus on being more chill, cool, and relaxed, and he’ll do what he can when it’s […]
Dating Tips: Loneliness
The feeling of loneliness is pervasive in our society. Most of us feel it on some level and do just about anything to avoid dealing with it. People deal with in ways like eating sweet treats and bing watching their favorite tv show. Many people jump from one relationship to another to avoid dealing with […]
The Most Powerful Mindset: Of All Time
Today, I wanted to share with you a powerful mindset that can shift your whole world view with just 3 simple words… Three words to bring you right into the present. Three words to make you see your life in a new powerful way. Three words to move you into a high frequency. OF ALL […]
How To Be The Most Attractive Guy In The Room – The Truth Shouts
So many people get caught up in acquiring things or achievements to define their self worth. They make their identity about cars, watches, houses, and degrees. All of those things are great and enjoy but when you make it your identity you lose your way. Why? Because you place your sense of self outside of […]
The 30 Day Tinder Challenge
I challenge you to delete every dating app and remove yourself from every online dating site for 30 days. These apps stop you from talking and connecting to women you really want to know. They delude you into thinking you have a social life. They keep you hooked on string of women who don’t really […]
Breaking The Literal Pattern: How To Not Be Boring
Today I want to share with you one of the Core Principles of my teaching. It’s a concept I call “Breaking The Literal Pattern”. Once you understand it and master it every conversation with any women, in fact with anybody, will be unique and interesting. Its the way to fun and its the way to […]
How To Flirt With Ease
Do you ever feel stiff when you are talking to a women? You feel like you analyzing every word flying out of your mouth and the little man in your head is criticizing everything you do. The main problem is your are seeking something doesn’t exist, perception. You think flirting with a women should be […]
How To Make Every Conversation Exciting: The Listening Exercise
To secret to fun exciting conversations is Listening. In this video I teach you how to make meaningful connections through listening.
Improvisation and Meeting Women
In this video I teach you how to be fun, silly, and playful. Its a great video to watch because as I am being improvisational with my good buddy David Wygant we attract a playful cute girl who is passing by into the improv. When you learn to improv with women every conversation […]
Get Into The Ultimate State: The State of Authenticity
I often hear guys say “I have to get into state”. Like there is this magic state to get into where you can finally be yourself. The state they are often trying to get into a super high energy (almost fanatic state), like they are at a frat party and had 10 beers. There are […]
How To Give A Direct Compliment To A Girl On The Street (Live InField)
This short video shows you how to quickly introduce yourself to a girl. Even though she is extremely busy will she give John Keegan her number? TO SEE FULL VIDEO: https://theawakenedlifestyle.com/dating-videos/ The Awakened Lifestyle: https://theawakenedlifestyle.com John Keegan is an award-winning dating coach and founder of the Awakened Lifestyle. The Awakened Lifestyle is about transcending the […]
The Social Life With David Wygant and John Keegan
Do you section off your social life between the hours of 10pm and 2am on Saturday night. So many people hide out during the week and avoid social contact and then the weekend comes and its time to get wrecked and make it happen. David and I explain how to avoid that trap and build […]
Conversation Tips: What To Do When You Can’t Think Of Anything To Say
I’m not sure what to say so I am just not going to say anything. That’s the story of most guys on any given day. How many times have you been in a conversation and didn’t know what to say next got anxious and left? It’s so uncomfortable that it can stop you from […]
Inner Game Tips: The Way To The Greatest Outcome
We spend our lives seeking an outcome just outside of ourselves but often the greatest outcome alludes us. Watch this Video now and discover the way to the greatest outcome. Looking forward, John PS. Check out the new site and explore new coaching programs. PSS. For those of you asked for better video and sound […]
Lifestyle Tips: Why You Need To Cultivate An Adventurous Spirit
Its a vital importance that a man tap into his curiosity and develop a thirst for discovering the world before him around him and beyond him. In this video I get into the importance of cultivating an adventurous spirit in all that you do. Bring that spirit into every conversation you have with a women […]
The Amazing Power Of Visualization
Wherever you are right now, whether in a dusty room, a ghetto, a mansion in hopeless relationship, through the power of visualization you can create a new destiny. Learn the simple technique in this video that can absolutely and literally change your very reality. I know because it changed mine. I went from being completely […]
Inner Game Tips: Standing On The Edge Of Reality
Living On The Edge Of Your Own Reality. Imagine living life this way…pushing yourself past your small circle of comfort everyday. When you do this you develop PRESENCE and CHARISMA. You become radiantly alive and make the choice to take a detour from mediocrity in Greatness. In this video I take you to the edge. […]
Appreciating Where You Stand: Finding The Beauty in Everything
The Core of Attraction is Appreciation. Many people are to busy trying to get somewhere to really appreciate where they are. I meet many a man who’s trained himself to look around and see what he doesn’t like about the situation. Why he’s not satisfied with life. They look at themselves and find […]
Dating Tips: The Seinfeld Principle
All the characters on Seinfeld love to pick people apart to the smallest levels. We love to watch them for it and laugh. Following this principle in real life is not so funny though. I meet many men who dissect women into many parts and constantly find whats wrong with them. They look for all […]
Are You A Visionary?
Do you have a vision for your life? For your dating life, for your relationship life, what do you want to experience and why do you want to experience it? Is it just some general feeling of discontent? The feeling that I don’t have what I want? Most of us walk around feeling like that, and it’s […]
What Does An Attractive Man Believe In
Are your beliefs destroying your ability to experience the life you desire? Are your beliefs keeping you stuck and alienated from the people you want to connect with? Are your beliefs making you feel less then Awesome? Do you believe you are not enough? Do you believe that there is not enough in the world […]
How To Become Ageless
How old are you? How many times do you get asked that question, how often does it feel good to answer that? What is the purpose of the question, “How old are you?” Every time you read a magazine about a famous person, or any person in a newspaper article, they always identify the person […]
The Little Dictator Inside Your Mind
We live in a politically correct world, that has for the past several years gotten even more and more extreme. To the point where a lot of people are scared to say anything to another person or express how they feel, in fear that they’ll insult someone; Out of fear that they will be condemned […]
On to the Next Suffering
Let’s have a look at our lives, our day to day. We strive for some great experience, craving it. Desiring it. Yearning for it. Finally got it!!!! Aannndddd before you know it… You’re on to the next suffering! You finally got what you always wanted, that very thing or experience you couldn’t wait to have, and almost […]
She’s Like A Rainbow and Yet You Make Her Grey
So Many guys miss the moment when attempting to connect with a women. They are so focused on the outcome that the girl before them just becomes a way to “get what he wants”. Of course, any self aware girl can feel this and it repels her. So he rarely ever does get what he […]
5 Lessons an Actor Knows That Will Transform Your Life
For many years I was an actor in NYC. I devoted my life too it. I studied with great teachers, worked on many projects, had the pleasure to work with many talented people and even lived in a dusty room in the back of a hoarders Lair. During those years of grinding it out […]
Moving Beyond Every Single Risk Point
In any given conversation, there’s a series of places where most people stop. They give up. More accurately they give into fear. Obviously, at each place there’s a point of anxiety where the dark voices, the monkey men, come in and start telling you why not to do it, you’re not good enough, and they’ll […]
The Ultimate Mind Set: The Social Explorer
When flirting with the opposite sex, we often get into a hunter and prey mindset. Straight away, we fall into a world of lack because we’re following a faulty paradigm. And this faulty paradigm is the success/failure paradigm. I’m successful if I get a phone number. I’m successful if she smiles. I’m successful if I get […]
The Most Romantic Story Ever Told: The Story of How We Met
The Story of “how we met”! One of the Most important stories a couple has. A story that, when in a relationship, you will repeat countless times. The first thing her friends and family will ask is…”How did you meet”. It’s an integral part of the romance. As the man you are the leader. It’s […]
Men – Why You Need To Be Beautiful
Beauty is not a word often attributed to men, and it’s not something men often aspire to. More often, adjectives like hard worker, tough, strong, smart, sharp, sincere. These are things men can aspire to be — rich, wealthy, a provider, a good man, etc. We might say it about something we see in nature, when […]
The Art of Settling In
Most men go into hunting mode when they want to meet a women.They walk around the bar, the streets, the cafes, wherever they are with a feeling of eminent lack. They are Seeking and Searching. They are in essence empty and looking for something to fill the void. We have all been there. We seek […]
There Is No “One Day” (Remove the Obstacle)
There is no “One Day”. There is only what is happening right now and what you want and what’s in the way. What’s in the way, usually is some barrier you put up in your mind. For example, let’s say right now you don’t have the best living situation, you don’t have like a big […]
Never Assume: Assumptions Stop You From Connecting With Amazing Women
Do You always assume your way out of connecting with great women? I see it all the time. A guy starts a conversation with a women and then spends the entire conversation discovering all the reasons why it won’t work with her. Basically, its an avoidance tactic so he can avoid the pain of rejection. […]
He Stood In A Dusty Room (Financial Insecurity)
“He stood in a dusty room… he looked around and saw no doors” So you’re in a spot in your life where you don’t feel like you have it all together. Maybe it’s in your mind, or maybe it’s very real. Maybe you’re going through a bankruptcy. Maybe you still haven’t found your career. Maybe […]
How To Use A Prop To Break The Ice
You find yourself standing next to an attractive women in the bookstore, super market, coffee shop, etc… you want to talk but you can’t think of anything to say. The easiest thing to do is to pick up something nearby and use it to break the ice. You can make a funny comment, ask for […]
Be With The C (Stillness and Focus)
When you’re with a woman, focus on taking it one step at a time. Think about the step you’re in, and keep your focus on that one moment only. Imagine you’re a guitar player, or a piano player, or a saxophone player, or any kind of musician or singer. Let’s just say you’re learning how […]
How To Not Creep Her Out (a Painfully Familiar Tale)
In this video I tell a real life Story about one of my friends who is typically good with women but on this day fell into the reality of the average frustrated man: Hesitating, missing the moment, seeking approval, looming around her, following her, as he crossed into the dreaded creepy zone! I”ll share this […]
Take yourself Outside the Box and Peak Back Inside (Practicing Detachment)
Have a look around. Sit at a cafe on a good street, and do some people watching. Drive down a busy road where lots of people will be and doing things that people do; shopping, talking, chatting, and maybe flirting. Have a look at everyone as they have their conversations, as they kiss, as they […]
Zen and The Art of Meeting and Connecting With Women
Imagine a way of life where you are continually connecting with amazing women and at the same time transcending all of your limits. Imagine stepping into a new reality where you find Joy and fun and power in expressing yourself. Imagine becoming magnetic and lighting women up the moment you arrive. That is what happens […]
Your Biggest Challenge Isn’t What You Think
Your biggest challenge is not that you don’t have a girlfriend. Your biggest challenge is not that sometimes you have a tough time, or you hesitate when you want to say hi to a beautiful woman at work. And it’s not that you don’t always take the risk. Your biggest challenge is not that you […]
2046 – The Self Realized Man
Is it a movie? Is It a Year? I share how a movie opened my eyes to the way of the Timeless Man. To be great we must transcend the confines of the time we live in while understand just how to play in the time that we do. Transcend your circumstance by seeing yourself […]
Are You Operating From a Faulty Paradigm?
Most of us go through existence feeling like we’re not good enough, feeling like we don’t have enough, hoping that one day we will arrive. We go through life constantly seeking elusive success. Anything that isn’t that gets discarded, abandoned, and left for dead. This paradigm is called the success/failure paradigm, and it leaves us […]
The New Year and The Man You Really Are
Hey guys, happy new year. I know a lot of you are thinking about what you want to achieve this next year, all the things that you want to do. Lets remember though, that there’s nothing more important than the way that you Be. Really think about who you want to Be this year and […]
Interview: How to Create an Amazing Lifestyle with James Marshall (Barcelona)
I Interview James Marshall of The Natural Lifestyles on How to Create the Lifestyle of your Dreams. James is a true Master in Transformation and Lifestyle Design. He shares how he started with little and created the exact lifestyle he wants to live out and how you can too. We get together once again in […]
Keep Calm and Follow Through
Recently, I eloquently persuaded a friend to take a 21-day yoga challenge. We’re already on day eight, and I just feel amazing! Not just because of the benefits of yoga, but because I am living out a goal that I had for my physical, emotional, and spiritual health. There’s really nothing more satisfying than self-evolution, self-actualization, […]
Lifestyle Series: Creating A Social Network – The Dinner Party!
Flirting and being social is so much more than just meeting someone to hookup with or finding someone to be your new “boo”. Its about making great friends, building new relationships and having awesome conversations. In this video I tell how to create a social network by throwing a dinner party!
Core Attraction: The Key Is Vibrant Health
If it didn’t live or grow…Don’t eat it! That was great advice given to me by Jeffrey Rose, the world famous hypnotist. If it didn’t live or grow, don’t eat it. So, if it didn’t grow out of the ground, it’s not worth eating, and if it didn’t live, if it wasn’t wild and caught […]
Drop The Agenda and Watch The Magic
The Agenda ridden mind has no peace. Most guys deal with women as means to an end. What end? To have their ego temporally fed. To be validated in some way. Even when they get it is fleeting. It’s so important to drop the agenda and learn to follow your natural instincts to connect with […]
Is Your Life Like Being John Malkovich?
In Being John Malkovich, a shy man goes out and tries to express himself by becoming a puppet master. He’s the master of all of the puppets, but with people and with women, he can’t assert himself in any way. And then somehow he ends up inside of John Malkovich’s head to get close to […]
Be A Present Tense Person
Super Attraction comes from being present. The more present you are the more attractive you are. You become free, light hearted, playful, devil may care, and detached from any outcome. The way to becoming great at meeting women in everyday places is to practice being present tense all the time. In this video I take […]
The Right Way To Flirt With The Waitress or The Shop Girl
Every Guy Wants to date the beautiful waitress or the cute shop girl who is being friendly while she helps him pick out clothes. How can you tell if she is just being nice? How can you move the conversation beyond todays daily specials? How you can actually get personal and make a real connection […]
Practicing The Power Of Now (The Social Practice)
The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle is perhaps the most profound book ever written.
It’s all about how to become one with the present moment, how to live life to its fullest, and to its richest. He teaches us that by letting go of past stories and future projections we can learn to be exactly […]
Wake Up! What Tinder Is Really Doing To You
Tinder and other dating sites have made many men docile and given them a way to avoid directly dealing with themselves. They offer a delusion where you have infinite possibilities and yet really hardly any. They keep you stuck from actually developing yourself and meeting the women you are really attracted too. In order to […]
The Opposite Sex is Not Your Enemy or Your Opposite
It’s been going on for a long time. It’s like we’ve been hearing phrases like, “the battle of the sexes” forever. Lately, it’s come even more into our everyday lives; it’s men versus women and women versus men. Men are out to get women, and women are out to get men. Separating us and dividing […]
Are You Practicing Being a Sociopath?
At one point, you decided the skills you had with connecting with women weren’t working for you. You needed to up your game, or somewhere along the line you got out of a breakup and you needed to start again. You saw beautiful women everywhere, and you didn’t know how to talk with them without […]
A Gentleman Is A Gentleman With Everybody (Not Just Hot Bodies)
So Many men divide women into categories. “She’s a 10” or “there’s a 6” I often hear them say. This is called Objectification and it’s dehumanizing. Whats more it blocks you from being an authentic man. You only relate to people based on the number value you have given them. So if you deem her […]
Dealing with Frustration
In the world of men meeting women, you come face-to-face with all of your limitations. It’s so easy to fall from the joy of the practice and start seeking results. Of course, we all would love to have the results that initially spurned us forward, which is to have more growth in our lives and […]
Breaking The Glass Wall and The Sound of The Night
When You Lie in your bed at night and you recap your day how do you feel? Do you feel that you have lived the day to its fullest? Are you Overflowing with excitement about todays events? Did you challenge yourself to move past little moments of fear and discover new realities? Are you Excited […]
Stories and Transformation (Change the story; Transform your life)
In this Video I teach you internal practices to let go of the stories we tell ourselves that keep us stuck in our lives and circumstances. We must defy these limiting stories in order to completely Transform our dating and social lives. Its important that we rewrite the script with vigilance until we can […]
I have amazing powers of observation- (Practice this today)
It’s our ability to observe our world around us, our ability to observe the people in it; and exactly what’s happening with them at this moment in time; and our ability to say what we see to her, in just the right way, at just the right moment, is our ability to connect. We want […]
Grains of Sand: Never Freeze With A Woman Again
The biggest prison we can live in is the fear of what other people think. Have you ever wanted to talk to a beautiful women and were stopped in your tracks because you were worried about the nearby strangers opinion? You see her sitting on a park bench and you just want to say […]
Moving Beyond The Fear of Rejection (Social Freedom)
The Fear of Rejection stops us from really Living the life we desire. Rejection is something everyman must face over and over. He will never really know who he is until he transcends his fear of rejection. The only way to be with and date truly amazing women is to to become a truly authentic […]
Every Place Has A Rhythm: Tune In and Connect With Women Everywhere
I get this all the time. “I’m good in the club but not in the daytime.” Or” I’m good on the street but not in the bookstore.” Guys make up so many excuses not to talk to women its fairly unbelievable. Then when they do start talking they aren’t really listening to whats happening around […]
The Essence of the Ladies Man
A Lady’s man doesn’t have a single type. Blonde hair, blue eyes, black hair, olive skin, he’s attracted to all types. He’s attracted to tall women, shorter women, thin women, fuller women. He loves women. He loves their essence. He loves their femininity, he follows it, he breathes it in, he lives off of it. […]
The Tale of Icy and Sot: A Secret of The Universe
The Tale of Icy and Sot “Two men look through bars. One saw the dirt, and the other saw the stars.”-Dale Carnegie Where’s your vision focusing? Where would you like it to be? I’m walking down the street here in my favorite neighborhood, SoHo, enjoying some of its many paintings on walls, a.k.a. street art. One […]
NY Times: One in 8 Million “The Ladies Man” John Keegan
5 years ago the NY Times did this Poetic and Timeless story on me. Pulitzer Prize winning Photo Journalist Todd Heisler follows me through the streets of New York city. The quintessential look into a day in the life of the “ladies man”. http://www.nytimes.com/packages/html/nyregion/1-in-8-million/index.html#/john_keegan
The 5 Day Transformation Course – In Miami – January 2015
Hi Friend, Change you personal, social and dating life now! Join me and an Amazing group of guys in South Beach, Miami this January! I will be Releasing more details and a Special Very Limited offer on Sunday
The Path To Authenticity Part IX: Master Breaking the Ice, Any Time, With Anyone, Anywhere
I’ve been sharing A lot about the “Way you Be” now I want to connect that to “What you Do”. This is how you can break the ice with any women no matter what situation you find yourself. Wether you are walking down the street, in the bookstore, supermarket, train, coffee shop, lounge, or any […]
The Path To Authenticity: Part VIII – The Instincts The Awakened Man Cultivates
To transcend your past self and all that limits you, you must look inward. When you accept that you are creating your own reality, then you can begin the real work of Transformation. We are taught to Practice “doing” as the way to improvement on any subject. There is truth that if you repeatedly practice […]
The Path To Authenticity: Part III – Who’s Dream Are You Dreaming?
In this video, I Take you further along The Path To Authenticity. I reveal the way to true freedom and real Attraction. In order for a man to become who he truly is he must spend a period of time contemplating his very reason for being. An Awakened Man who is one with […]
The One Thing You Need To Do To Create Real Transformation
If you want to be amazing at anything, if there is an area of your life that you really would love to change, or you looked at someone else’s life and thought, “I wish I had that, I wish I was like that.” Well, you can have and be that. I’ll bet you that person […]
Dealing With The Voices In Your Head
When you’re about to go talk to a beautiful woman, and that hesitation comes over you, that anxiety, that apprehension that cripples you and starts a war within you, these are like the monkeys from the Wizard Of Oz that come flying into your head telling you, “You shouldn’t do that! That’s bad! That’s creepy!” […]
Where Are You Operating From?
Where is the place that all your actions and the words that fly out of your mouth are coming from? It’s somewhere in the belief systems. Somewhere in your core, your essence. Your core beliefs. Your core trusts in yourself. Your trust in other human beings, and your trust in the universe. It’s somewhere in […]
Be Vulnerable
So many of us, especially men, have our walls up so high that we don’t even know what it’s like to be open to another person. We don’t even know what it’s like to let someone really experience what it’s like to be open, to let their guard down. It’s only in that space […]
Who’s Dream are You Dreaming?
“Dream beyond the dreams you were given and I will Dream with you.” We have job titles, or we have aspirations to have a certain job title, whether it be doctor, lawyer, rock star, actor, or accountant. It’s our identity. We start dreaming that one day we’ll be super rich, and one day we’ll be […]
Be the Rock Star of your own Life
What are rock stars going for? What are we all really going for? What does the rock star represent? Why do we appreciate them so much, and why do people get so star struck when they meet them? Here’s why. The rock star represents freedom. Freedom from the limitations and confines of a mediocre life, […]
The Essence of Attraction
If you want to understand attraction, you need to know the essence of attraction. This is a simple formula. Attraction is to pull. It’s the ability to bring things to you. Not to chase after it, not to run after it. Although, you might run down the street after a girl you’re attracted to, if […]
What is Meditation?
Meditation means to still the mind. Essentially, people meditate for one real reason, and that’s to stop the incessant stream of thinking that’s going on in their mind of either dwelling on the past, or worrying about the future. Even if you’re not dwelling on the past or worrying the future, you might be having […]
You’re a Natural. You just don’t know it
You have instincts. You have amazing powers of observation; you just stopped listening to them. You just stop using them. That’s what we’re learning to do now. We learn to turn back in to our instincts, our intuition and respond from them. When we do that, we become very a powerful and empowered person. We […]
Stories and Letting Go
All day, every day, everywhere people are telling stories. We’re wired to them. We love them. People tell them to reveal who they are, who they want to be, and to move us. We go and we watch them and we pay them lots of money and we review them. When we’re having the best […]
The Power Of Pain
Are you in pain? If so, you’re in luck. Pain is one of the great teachers of change. When you’re walking down the street, at a café, or in the supermarket, and you see one of the most beautiful women you’ve ever seen in your life, and you freeze up. You don’t know what to […]
John Keegan on MSN Living-Love/Sex/Dating
Be authentic As a former actor, dating coach John Keegan knows that being fake doesn’t help you connect with other people. In fact, “it repels them,” he observes. “Acting taught me how to tap into my authentic self. How to connect with myself, and my feelings…and connect with others in a truthful way. In acting […]
John Keegan on Mansome: HOW TO APPROACH ANY WOMAN
John Keegan on Mansome: HOW TO APPROACH ANY WOMAN Click the Link to Watch John give Mansome Host Roger Hailes Advice on how to become a master at breaking the ice! http://screen.yahoo.com/mansome-145-approach-woman-050000459.html Dating coach John Keegan teaches Roger Hailes how to become a Cassanova. Practice makes perfect, so make sure to speak to women solely […]
John Keegan in Entrepreneur Magazine
"The biggest thing I do is help men really like themselves and have fun being themselves while doing what they were born to do -- connect,"
Humans of New York-Interview “The Dating Coach” By Brandon Stanton
The Dating Coach April 28th, 2011 by Brandon Stanton http://www.humansofnewyork.com/2011/04/28/the-dating-coach/ I consider myself a charming individual. I’ve got a real big smile, which usually shows up in an aw shucks kind of way. I’m really tall, so I try to be gentle and soft spoken. I’m good at asking questions. I’ve got plenty of jokes. I like […]
“Online dating is a way for millions of people to hide behind their fears and insecurities”:
The Huffington Post: Watch John Keegan, Dating Coach: "Online dating is a way for millions of people to hide behind their fears and insecurities":
The Dating Coach on Spike Tv (episode 2 of 2)
In this Episode I guide Luke H. Simmons host of Spike Tv's Man to Man past some limiting beliefs, through a little anxiety, and ultimately into a conversation with an attractive women. Watch as Luke breaks the ice in New York City's Washington Square Park.
The Dating Coach on Spike Tv (John Keegan)
John Keegan Dating Coach teaches Spike Tv's Luke H. Simmons how to meet the women he desires in broad daylight...
AIMbitious Video Interview 2 -Awaken To An Enlightened Relationship
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Aimbitious Video Interview Part 1- Awaken to An Enlightened Relationship
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Awaken To An Enlightened Relationship
Everyone knows there’s more to dating than meets the eye, but after you meet John Keegan, you’ll learn that there’s more to a dating coach, too. With a degree in psychology, a dream of acting, and a passion for spiritual books, John Keegan headed to New York City, and, along the way, founded his mission: “to meet, connect and build relationships in more meaningful ways, with new people, in everyday situations.”
Situational Awareness…A Must Read Article On The Essence of New York
The heart of what I teach is to live in Inspiration and act upon it. New York City can be the most Amazing place in the universe, when you capitalize on all that is around you. It can be the most crushing place in the universe when you do not. Situational Awareness is key in […]
She’s Says I’ll Take Your Number…Now What?
The worst thing to do is allow her to take your number. Even though the girl enjoys your company and finds you to be attractive, she’s often says, “Well, I'll take your number." Maybe it's a sign she feels like this is weird, or that she doesn't want to appear easy to get. Maybe she's not quite comfortable with you yet. Rather than looking at it as some kind of test,
How To Set Up The “Date”
The second best thing to the instant date is to set up a time and a place for a later date. This is really important. This is a way to see how solid your interaction was, to let her know that this is a romance between a man and a woman. So, for example
The Instant Date-A How To Guide
The best thing we can do after meeting someone is to go on an instant date. This means, having had the initial interaction, you’re now going to move somewhere else to hang out.
Are You Stuck In Your Head?
The way out of this self-sabotage is to listen to her and respond off of what she's saying rather than from the negative voices in your head. If you're really listening, your body language is going to be just fine. By listening, relating, and responding to her, you will be in a more relaxed state, which will automatically come through your posture, gestures and expression.
John Keegan is taking New Submissions Private Coaching
The Mastery Course (6 weeks 12 Sessions) Finer tuning, deeper insights, additional practice and consultation. If you want the pinnacle of success, you can supplement an additional four sessions to the transformation course. That’s an additional eight hours, not to mention the personal experience you gain in your private investment in your success. By no […]
Touching is Important…But How?
So how do we touch others in real interactions with real people and real situations?
We touch them lightly. Basic rules are, the hands and the arms are safe. They are always normal, safe places to touch. When a woman laughs when you make a point, you can tap, or touch her arm lightly.
The Power of Mirroring
In mirroring, if you're sitting across a table from someone, they lean in, you lean in, they lean back, you lean back, they look away, you look away. You're literally mirroring their behavior to establish trust and put people at ease. It’s important to combine mirroring with listening,
Her Eye Contact and The Absolute Strongest Frame You Can Have
orward to disarm her and make her feel comfortable enough to come out and play. Many beautiful women are shy, especially in these initial social interactions when they don't know someone. Also, you might be surprised to find that, in her timidity, she looks up to you as a man of high value. The best thing you can do is assume that she's shy, rather than be abrasive or think she's not interested.
Her Body Language
ut there's no need to constantly be looking for these signs of approval from her. In fact, one of the key mistakes that guys make is looking for these signals, known as indicators of interest, from women.
The Right Way To Approach A Women
Initial body language when approaching a women It’s important to have your body language facing outwards, not boxing her in, not going straight up to her face to face no matter how you start. Your body language should communicate that you’re going to walk away, reassuring her, as a total stranger, that you’re not locking […]
How To Stop Communicating Nervous Needy Energy
It is important not to get stuck in the energy of need, trying to get something from another person (i.e.:validation, a phone number, sex). This will naturally show in our body language as leaning in and pulling back a lot – pecking.
Beliefs and Body Language
Everything that we do or say comes from what's going on inside of us. So often we look for external answers to resolve internal issues. As an expression of your internal state, body language is ultimately no different. Of course we can do external things that will internalize new habits within us, but we must first acknowledge that our beliefs are affecting our behavior, actions, words, and what the subtle things we are communicating beyond words.
Who Are You Seeking Approval From?
Here are the most powerful ways to avoid falling into the frame of seeking approval and to become the approver in any interaction:
The New York Times Profile of me “The Ladies Man” (in Print)
People often say, 'What do you do?' and I think that answering that question outright 8 out of 10 times is antithetical to your purpose. Ask me what I do and I'll say, 'Guess,' and you'll say, 'O.K., I'll guess,' or you'll say, 'Oh, I don't want to guess,' and I'll say, 'Come on, don't you think it would be more fun if we guessed?'
Acting, Dating, And Being Authentic -An Interview
I recently did an interview Betterfly Journalist Beatta Aldridge. In this interview I discus the core of being connected to onesself so that you can easily connect to others in an authentic, moment to moment way. Interview with a Betterist: Dating Coach John Keegan Here at Betterfly, we recently got the chance to sit down […]
One in 8 Million: New York Characters in Sound and Images
PHOTOS (PHOTOGRAPHS BY TODD HEISLER/THE NEW YORK TIMES) The Ladies’ Man John Keegan, 35, hires himself out as a coach to men who want help learning how to meet women. He studied psychology before pursuing a career in acting and says he is fascinated by human behavior; he cites the book ”The Power of Now: […]
5 Easy Rules Daters Should Live By
Lovelies: The weekend. Sigh. I worked on my novel for most of it. Last Monday, my agent told me she thought I should revise the manuscript a leeetle bit more before she sends it out to editors (who are the one with the power to “buy” the book, which would lead to it getting published, which […]
Subverting the Usual (Boring) Get-to-Know-You Q’s
Subverting the Usual (Boring) Get-to-Know-You Q’s by Maura Kelly Lovelies: I scored some points in favor of living flirtatiously over the weekend! But that is a story I will have to tell you tomororw … Today, on the other hand, I must impart more wisdom from my darling dating coach, John Keegan. The dude must […]
3 Ways to Gain Power (By Granting Approval) in a Flirtation
3 Ways to Gain Power (By Granting Approval) in a Flirtation by Maura Kelly Lovelies: I’m grouchy today: I didn’t sleep too well, I’ve got deadlines up the wazoo (including a huge one on Monday), blah blah. Plus, I went to a relatively fun kick-off-the-holidays-early party last night at Housing Works–a very cool bookstore in […]
4 Tips for Starting Conversations While Holiday Shopping
4 Tips for Starting Conversations While Holiday Shopping December 18, 2009 11:57 AM by Maura Kelly Lovelies: As promised, my favorite dating coach, John Keegan, has arrived over here at Maura Kelly HQ just in time for the holidays. His Santa-bag is packed with great, fun advice–for all you naughty girls and boys–about how to […]
3 Ways to Get a Guy While Holiday Shopping
Marie Claire dating blogger Maura Kelly gets some great, fun advice from dating coach John Keegan about how to make the most of the abundant flirtatious opportunities that will surround you for the next week. The great thing about December, according to John, “You know exactly where all the people are going to be–out […]
What is the purpose behind The Awakened Lifestyle?
What is the purpose behind The Awakened Lifestyle? I recently received an email from someone who read about me in the NY Times. His subject line was “Awakened but Overwhelmed”. His words echoed the feelings of so many men that I have met, spoke to, and worked with. His letter inspired me to respond here […]
Help Us Help You: Ten Ways to Meet A Great Guy
Help Us Help You: Ten Ways to Meet A Great Guy By: John Keegan (View Profile) So many beautiful and interesting women I know can’t meet a great guy because they are closing themselves off to others, very often unconsciously. If you’re one of those ladies wondering “where are all the great guys hiding,” then it’s […]
Who Are You Seeking Approval From? By: NYC Dating Coach John Keegan
Who Are You Seeking Approval From? Seeking the approval of others is something most of us do on some level. We seek the approval of our parents, bosses, friends, etc. It is normal that we want people to like us, and when we meet someone new, it is natural that we would want them to […]
Help Us Help You: Ten Ways to Meet A Great Guy – DivineCaroline
So many beautiful and interesting women I know can’t meet a great guy because they are closing themselves off to others, very often unconsciously. If… View >>