Tinder and other dating sites have made many men docile and given them a way to avoid directly dealing with themselves. They offer a delusion where you have infinite possibilities and yet really hardly any. They keep you stuck from actually developing yourself and meeting the women you are really attracted too. In order to really become who you are you must learn to take real risk and transcend limits and fear. The dates most people go on off the internet are like eating a meal that stuffs you but doesn’t actually feed you. The entire system is based on the outcome and not on self development.