When you’re with a woman, focus on taking it one step at a time.
Think about the step you’re in, and keep your focus on that one moment only.
Imagine you’re a guitar player, or a piano player, or a saxophone player, or any kind of musician or singer.
Let’s just say you’re learning how to play the guitar, and you’re learning rock and roll, and you’re learning the basic progression, 1, 4, 5, which translates to C, F, G, and then back to C.
Those are the the chords, and let’s just say you can put in the song, “Let it be,” in there. Its basic chord progression is C, F, G, and back to C. I don’t know if that’s exactly true, but I’m pretty sure it is.
As you learn the songs and you practice enough times, it becomes a part of you.
When you’re playing the C chord, you can’t play the F chord too.
You can only play the C. You must BE with the C.
Then, as you practice and you’re playing, your hand will naturally glide in the exact time it needs to, and then you’ll BE with the F.
Then it will slide in the exact time it needs to, to be with the G, and then you’ll BE with the G. Then you’ll go back to being with the C.
Be with the C when you’re playing the C. Concentrate on that, and then you’ll be with the next thing, and then the next thing.
When you go up to her, and you break the ice, BE with her.
Be with her in that moment, and when you give her a compliment, only focus on giving her that compliment. That’s it.
When you’re asking about her, and you’re learning about her, be with that, and really be curious about her, and don’t try to rush ahead to getting her number, or kissing her, or getting laid.
Really be there and listen to her and learn about her, and when you’re talking about yourself, really connect with her, and really be with that.
That’s all that you can do!
The more you do that, the more present you become.
Literally, the more now you become. The more your presence rises in the moment, and the more attractive you become.
Women want to be with men who take their time, and don’t rush into the next thing and then the next thing. They want a focused man who can be in each moment when it comes.
A great musician knows that each chord in the song is just as important as the rest and takes his time with his art.
The more you do that with a woman, the more you’ll connect with her, and the more irresistible you’ll be to her.